Man Puts Abortion Pills Into Girlfriend's Yogurt  − 28 February, 2008

OK, this story creeps me out, and I hope the man in question gets the maximum punishment available by law. The story is out of Stockholm, Sweden – a 27-year-old man (whose name was withheld for legal reasons) attempted to cause a miscarriage of the fetus conceived by himself and his girlfriend. She had decided to keep the baby, but he felt he was too young to be a father and went ahead and ordered the drugs necessary to cause an abortion through the internet and deceiving his doctor into prescribing others.
He then crushed the pills and put them in her yogurt. After consuming the yogurt, she had severe stomach cramps and vaginal bleeding. As soon as she realized what happened, she opted to have a medical abortion procedure, fearing the fetus was irreparably damaged by that point.
So far, the man has been sentenced to 18 months in prison, though according to his lawyer, he intends to appeal the ruling.
I guess the guy thought he wouldn’t get caught? That she would “accidentally” miscarry and no one would be the wiser? He helped create the baby – if he was so unwilling to be a parent, he should have thought about that before and practiced effective birth control.
What a horrible thing for the girlfriend to go through – especially horrifying to come to the conclusion that your mate did it to you and the baby you conceived together! What a terrible realization for her.
I can’t even imagine the horror.
I am sure there are a lot of men out there who secretly pray for the same thing to have happen. I have heard of other stories of men punching and kicking their pregnant mates in an attempt to cause a miscarriage – usually those relationships are pretty abusive from the beginning, however, and not a “surprise” for the woman.
I know there are also a lot of women out there who erroneously think that having their man’s baby will keep him with them or will “change” him into a loving, kind person because now he is a father. It doesn’t seem to work.
What is stupid to me is that if a man is so unwilling to be a parent, why doesn’t he take measures to prevent it? Keep it in your pants or cover it up, man! You are just as responsible for conception as the woman is – and it is certainly easier to prevent a pregnancy than it is to get rid of one. And once the woman is pregnant, it really is her decision as to whether or not she is going to give birth to it. If she does, you are roped in, dude, and responsible for that kid until it reaches 18 years old. That’s a lot of child support.
I know there are some landmark cases where a father has renounced responsibility to the baby, but generally the courts find in the mother and baby’s favor and you have to pay. Period. Isn’t it easier to just practice safe sex?
You could avoid all those problems with just a condom.
And how does it feel to grow up an unwanted child? Not very good I would imagine, and I would hazard a guess that there are a lot of resentful fathers out there, carrying out their anger on their unwanted kids. You even see that sort of thing in relationships with wanted children – often, divorcing parents will take their aggression towards their ex out on the kids.
So keep it in your pants or covered and if you can’t, you are the only one to blame.