My Best Ex's Wedding  − 18 April, 2008

He has been a friend for years. We fracked around for 8 months a few years back, feeling genuine affection for one another and knowing nothing could come out of it. We remained friends.

I received my official wedding invitation for his wedding last week and am...shocked. I'm happy for him and I knew of his plans to marry her. But if it was me I wouldn't invite him to my wedding. Last time I saw his girlfriend she made comments that made me think that she was jealous.

I have not responded to the email (invites were sent by email)...and there is another thing that makes me hesitate. It's an ecological wedding. How can I wear a dress if we have to go on a bike ? No heels because they're getting married on an island in the middle of a park. And it's a potlock so we have to bring food and drinks and we are expected to write what's in the food on pieces of paper because there will be a lot of vegetarians, veggans and "allergic to everything" people. And we have to bring our plates, forks, spoons etc. No napkins, no disposable dishes or glasses. How can I bring all of this on a bike ?! I'm not equipped for this. We're also expected to participate in games...urgh.

I really love that friend even if he never calls. Always too busy plus he doesn't think about it. That's why he doesn't have that many friends. His girlfriend is much better at keeping contact, very sociable.

So I don't know what to do, really. I want to celebrate their love for each other with them but I think it's so much trouble !

Comments:

peahayes (April 19, 2008. 03:50am)

I'd say don't go if you don't think you will enjoy it. But think about whether you will regret not going later, if you decide not to go. It's worth thinking about.