Differences of opinion, work differences − 26 June, 2008
I have this colleague.
He is just so annoying. He makes comments on my appearance, on other women's appearances, he shouts, he bangs the computer, the printer, the scanner. He complains about lots and lots of things. He's frustrated and he just dumps it all on us. I can't wait to get out of that office. Really. I love my job but the guy is a ball of anger and I want none of it. His discourse is full of "I don't give a damn, I don't care" which only shows he does. If he really didn't care, he wouldn't talk about the subjects or the people he talks about.
We had "words" maybe two weeks ago. I said to him that I could do some of his work when he was out of the office (vacation, day off) and he practically bit my head off. I was so mad, I just wanted to cry. He's been a pain for months. I am civil with him, I try to be there as a coworker and he just yells, grumbles. He said I just "had to do my job, my things as usual". I DO MY JOB. It's not my fault if I do my work fast and efficiently and then have nothing to do and have to wait for work again.
My jokes fall flat. He takes everything personally (which is a reason why we cannot be friends). He thinks I attack him. He doesn't understand that I would never attack him (although I would at the moment). He's just miserable and frankly, he shouldn't bring that at work. He makes the work environment quite heavy. Some days he says n o t h i n g at all. He acts like we're invisible, doesn't even say hi in the mornings.
When I offer my help, he doesn't want it. But then he's gonna moan and bitch about his colleagues doing only their thing...
Then after having yelled that he didn't want my help, I didn't have to do this, I should just mind my own business...he writes me an email saying "I don't think I'm aggressive, I am not angry at you but I think I have to apologize". I would have responded if it wasn't that it isn't the first time and I'm sick of it. YES he is aggressive. He IS angry. If he's not angry at me, he should act differently than he is acting.
I haven't answered and have not approached the subject. He knows what's wrong. I know what's wrong. I have read his email. I choose to let him be the way he is and I am continuing with my life.
Comments:
kga245 (June 27, 2008. 07:24pm)
I'm sure HR would have a few things to say about it.
edunn (June 30, 2008. 01:06am)
Who does that?! Sorry you have to deal with him. Maybe he needs more than just a day off. I am sure he acts like that to others. Why do they keep him and his attitude at the office?
Bazookah 5 (June 30, 2008. 12:46pm)
The guy is usually a nice guy. I think he feels crappy and he brings it to work. But he's mostly a good person. I don't know if he's like that with other people but I hope not. And we have union which basically means we keep everyone even the rotted apples !