The Freakin' Toilet Seat  − 23 July, 2008

I had this weird toilet seat who would slide as you sat on it. I took the habit of clenching it with both hands when I sat so I wouldn't scream and fall as my friend did the last time she came at my apartment.

This last weekend, my boyfriend broke the freakin't toilet seat. He broke the screw. I have been sliding dangerously all week. I was waiting for my pay or birthday money so I could buy a new seat with metal screws...

He was sitting on my steps when I came home from working. He had bought a toilet seat and proceeded to install it. I should be happy...and somewhere in there I am. At least I thanked him. But I would have liked to buy the seat myself and install it myself. I know...why can't I just accept this gift he gave me without fretting.

It's just that it makes me feel like a pathetic (my feelings) woman who can't do anything herself and expects her man to do everything that is "remotely complicated" involving tools or any electronic devices. Dammit, I have the biggest tool box in the 514 area code. I would like to use it ! And pay for my freakin't toilet seat !

I told my Manly Man that I was going to reimburse him and he wants none of it. It's a gift of love he says. It makes me feel uncomfortable. But I guess I have to let it go and accept his gifts. He's the only man that could give me a ring (I don't accept jewellery as gifts. They are bribes to me...another weird thing...neurotic in fact)...but I can't accept a damn toilet seat !!

Comments:

edunn (July 25, 2008. 12:54pm)

If you gave him a gift I bet it would be out of the generosity of your heart and he would except it as that. You can receive gifts too! It was from his heart now TP attached!

peahayes (July 25, 2008. 01:29pm)

You can always accept this gift, but let him know that where fix-it things are concerned, you'd like a chance to do it yourself. If he understands that it means a lot to you to be independent, he might just grant your wish.